To be completely honest, I picked this book up on a whim because I liked the color scheme of the cover. I'm not married, I don't particularly enjoy weddings, and the only toast I'm interested in is the bread kind. But I read Wedding Toasts I'll Never Give in one sitting! Because it's not just about weddings, it's about how to be and how other people are. I felt like I was given a no-holds-barred glimpse into someone's life and I was fascinated. Plus, Ada Calhoun is a clever, succinct writer and reading her words was a pleasure. Read this book and give it to others (maybe with a piece of toast, just a suggestion), make them read it too!— Lauren
We hear plenty about whether or not to get married, but much less about what it takes to stay married. Clich's around marriage--eternal bliss, domestic harmony, soul mates--leave out the real stuff. After marriage you may still want to sleep with other people. Sometimes your partner will bore the hell out of you. And when stuck paying for your spouse's mistakes, you might miss being single.
In Wedding Toasts I'll Never Give, Ada Calhoun presents an unflinching but also loving portrait of her own marriage, opening a long-overdue conversation about the institution as it truly is: not the happy ending of a love story or a relic doomed by high divorce rates, but the beginning of a challenging new chapter of which "the first twenty years are the hardest."
Calhoun's funny, poignant personal essays explore the bedrooms of modern coupledom for a nuanced discussion of infidelity, existential anxiety, and the many other obstacles to staying together. Both realistic and openhearted, Wedding Toasts I'll Never Give offers a refreshing new way to think about marriage as a brave, tough, creative decision to stay with another person for the rest of your life. "What a burden," Calhoun calls marriage, "and what a gift."