Dr. Nicole LePera: How to Be the Love You Seek: Break Cycles, Find Peace, and Heal Your Relationships
Dr. Nicole LePera


Internationally bestselling author Dr Nicole LePera (How to Do the Work and How to Meet Your Self) presents her latest, a paradigm-shifting guide to strengthen your relationships, beginning with the one you have with yourself. In conversation with Dr. Nicole Beurkens.



From the creator of The Holistic Psychologist and author of the #1 New York Times bestseller How to Do the Work comes this paradigm-shifting guide to strengthen your relationships, beginning with the one you have with yourself.

Relationships have long been essential to human survival. Our bodies and brains are programmed to seek out connection, both romantic and platonic. And yet, these vital bonds are often the at the root of some of our deepest suffering.

For decades, experts have posited that maintaining successful relationships requires a certain kind of compromise; of two people changing their behaviors and instincts to better meet the needs of the other. In theory, it sounds reasonable. But in reality, while feeling seen, valued, and loved are basic human yearnings, we can’t rely on others to make us feel whole—it must come from within.

In How to Be the Love You SeekNew York Times bestselling author Dr. Nicole LePera—whose integrative, holistic approach to psychology has attracted an audience of millions—offers a new path to healing relationships. Harnessing the latest scientific research, she explains how the unmet needs rooted in our earliest relationships influence our connections in the present. It is only when we take responsibility for our unmet needs, she suggests, that we can begin to coexist with others in a healthy, loving way.

Whether the relationship at issue is with a spouse or partner, a parent, a sibling, a child, a friend, or a colleague—Dr. LePera teaches us how identify the wounds and conditioning that underlie discord and disconnection and begin to heal in mind and body. Complete with stories, exercises, journal prompts, and other practical guidance, How to Be the Love You Seek is poised to become an instant classic, and the go-to relationship resource for a new generation.

Dr. Nicole LePera is the author of the internationally bestselling books How to Do the Work and How to Meet Your Self and is the creator of the #SelfHealers movement, a community of people joining together to take healing into their own hands. Dr. Nicole was trained in clinical psychology at Cornell University and The New School for Social Research and also studied at the Philadelphia School of Psychoanalysis. Her teachings empower the individual to break free from inherited beliefs and uncover their authentic Selves.

Dr. Nicole Beurkens is the world’s leading holistic child psychologist. She has dedicated her 25 year career to providing parents with simple, effective, research-based strategies that get to the root of children’s attention, anxiety, mood, and behavior challenges so they can reach their highest potential.